I am the mother of an abused child. The disclosure took place in 1993, when she told about her dad-my husband. It was a very frightening time in our lives. We have spent the last 6 1/2 years in counseling, dad and daughter, mother and daughter, brother and sister, mother and father, family and most […]
Continue ReadingThis is an article sent to me from Ann Landers column. We have asked for permission to have this on our site, and will take it off if we don’t hear from them soon. Dear Ann Landers: I am your average, everyday child molester. Please understand that I’m not talking about a guy who hides […]
Continue ReadingAs a mother, the feelings of helplessness are beyond anyone’s imagination who hasn’t been there. Bring a child into the world so precious and loving, and when she is taken away instantly they have been abused. No more loving feelings between mother and child -she wont let you close to her! It hurts. My feelings […]
Continue ReadingChild sexual abuse has been reported up to 80,000 times a year, but the number of unreported instances is far greater, because the children are afraid to tell anyone what has happened, and the legal procedure for validating an episode is difficult. The problem should be identified, the abuse stopped, and the child should receive […]
Continue ReadingThere’s an elephant in the room. It is large and squatting, so it is hard to get around it. Yet we squeeze by with “How are you?” and “I’m fine” and And a thousand other forms of trivial chatter. We talk about the weather. We talk about work. We talk about everything else–except the elephant […]
Continue ReadingI became a sex therapist in the mid-1970s because I was impressed with how well standard sex therapy techniques were able to help people overcome embarrassing problems such as difficulty having an orgasm, painful intercourse, premature ejaculation, and impotence. The use of sex education, self-awareness exercises, and a series of behavioral techniques could cure many […]
Continue ReadingDo You Have an Anger Problem? The following are questions designed to help identify potential problems you may have with anger and/or control. This is not a researched scale, but it can point to serious signs of danger in intimate relationships. Do friends and family feel free to share their thoughts and feelings with you? […]
Continue ReadingThe following provides some basic principles for beginning the process of sexual healing from the aftermath of sexual abuse. Work toward establishment of the essential conditions for ensuring an atmosphere in which sexual recovery can occur (these are essential for any healthy, sexual relationship): Mutual consent Equality of personal power in relationship Mutual respect Mutual […]
Continue Reading“Oh no! I must have done something wrong and now I’m really in trouble. I wonder if I said something wrong in our staff meeting today? Did I send all those letters he told me were important? I thought I got them all typed and mailed. What could it be? Why does he want me […]
Continue ReadingPretend that you are 75 years old and that you are writing a letter of advice to yourself on how to live your remaining years with meaning, value and significance. This was an assignment presented by my therapist to the support group that I was part of last year. The following list is a combination […]
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